The Most Important Thing You Can Do This Summer: Read 10+5+5

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By mid-July, it happens. Soccer camp, popsicles by the pool, and road trips have ruled the days. But now, that first nagging thought blossoms: “Back to School is coming.” And with that comes fear of the Summer Slide.

Summer Slide happens as kids take a three-month break from reading, writing, and arithmetic. The school skills pursued so diligently over the year backslide from lack of use. All of us (kids, moms, dads, and even family pets) need a breather from the familiar tears-over-homework-at-the-kitchen-table scene, and summer can be that rejuvenating break for everyone. But is there a way to enjoy summer, avoid the dreaded Summer Slide, and head toward school success instead of catch-up?

Over our years of counseling kids and families through the Summer Slide to a successful transition into school, we’ve found one simple tip makes a huge difference: The Read 10+5+5 Summer Strategy.

Best Tip for Summer Reading | The Being Well Center

The Read 10+5+5 Summer Strategy

Reading skills need relatively little maintenance to stay fresh over summer, but neglecting the reading could have noticeable consequences at the start of the school year.

You’ll be amazed at how investing just 20 minutes a day, 3-5 times a week, in enjoying and discussing reading will have your child ready to jump right back into school.

The 10+5+5 formula is simple: 10 minutes of independent reading (or reading to younger, emerging readers), plus 5 minutes of writing about what’s been read, plus 5 minutes of discussing the reading with a grown-up.

10 Minutes Reading

Best Tip for Summer Reading | The Being Well Center

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Require your children to read 10 minutes a day, 3-5 days a week or more. Make it a fun, relaxed time—pick cozy reading spots indoors or out, take a reading “field trip” to a coffee shop, or rearrange the bedroom to include a special reading chair or bean bag. Maybe your child has to finish his 10 minutes reading before video games. Maybe she can settle in to read while dinner’s being prepped. The time of day doesn’t matter, just the habit.

How to Find Books that Hold Interest

Especially for struggling readers, even 10 minutes of reading time can seem like an eternity and lead to power struggles. Fresh, interesting reading material can make all the difference. For ideas on great books specific to your child’s interests, age, and reading level, consult the expertise of your local librarian or peruse these expert guides:

What to Read When by Pam Allyn

The Read Aloud Handbook by Jim Trelease

Guys Read: Funny Business by Jon Scieszka

121 Books: A Very Subjective Guide to the Best Kid Books of All Time by Andy Ward

Summer Reading for 7-9 year olds by Tsh Oxenreider

Summer Reading for 10-12 year olds by Tsh Oxenreider

Relax it for summer: It’s summer, not school, so shoot for fun, interactive reading materials. Expand your definition of “books” to include things like magazines, graphic novels, comics, picture books, and newspapers. If it’s interesting to your child and can qualify as written material, let them explore it. The only rule here is that they have to spend 10 dedicated minutes reading.

5 Minutes Writing

 Once your child has finished 10 minutes reading, they should immediately turn to writing for 5 minutes about what they’ve read. The goal in this step is to encourage reading comprehension and enhance understanding.

If your child eagerly dives into writing about what he’s read, let him run with it.

If your child isn’t sure where to begin, you might write a question at the top of her reader’s journal page to prompt her thinking. Here are some strategy questions that stimulate responses to reading:

  • Summarizing: Leave the top of the page blank for an illustration of what has been read and the bottom half lined for a short written summary of what happened in the story.
  • Connecting: “This reminds me of…”
  • Questioning: Write down a quote from what you read and answer, “This makes me wonder/question…” or “I’m confused…”
  • Visualizing: Write down a quote from what you read and answer (or illustrate), “I get a picture in my head…”
  • Determining Importance: “This is really important…”
  • Synthesizing: “I get it! This reading makes me think about…”

Younger readers can participate in 5 Minutes Writing too—illustrating a scene from the story is as valid a response as writing words about it. They’re still thinking, summarizing, and expressing what they’ve understood. Goal accomplished!

Relax it for summer: Don’t worry about grammar, spelling, or editing in this writing step. Make the process fun by purchasing a new notebook for a Reader’s Journal. Buy a new pen or pencil. Find a dedicated spot in your house to keep the reading materials so they’re easy to locate when reading time rolls around.

5 Minutes Discussing

image via Flickr by Paul Hamilton

image via Flickr by Paul Hamilton

You may be the most critical part of your child’s summer reading experience. At some point after your children have finished their 10 Minutes Reading and 5 Minute Writing, take 5 minutes to discuss with them what they’ve read and thought about.

Your questions can be open ended or scripted. What matters is that your interest in your child, her activity, and her thoughts is sincere.   You may wait until bedtime when the house is quiet to discuss. You may bring it up while lounging at the pool. You may make a ritual of sitting with a glass of lemonade for 5 minutes of undivided attention when you get home from work. Or, you may outsource and call the grandparents for a telephone book report!

Relax it for summer: Be a listener, not a teacher. You are under no pressure to teach, guide, instruct, or assess. This is summer, the days are long and lazy, and you’re simply providing an interested, open audience to listen to your child’s thoughts. Some questions you might use to prompt the discussion:

  • What was most interesting?
  • What did it remind you of?
  • What did you wonder about as you were reading?
  • What part do you think I would enjoy reading?

Parents Can Read 10+5+5 too!

The most powerful move you can make to prevent summer slide is to model Read 10+5+5 for your kids. Why should kids have all the reading fun? Read 10+5+5 could be a great initiative to kickstart your summer reading list! Read 10+5+5 is an amazingly powerful way to connect with your kids and give yourself some well-deserved relaxation and meditation time in the process. Pick up a book and read alongside them! Pick up a pen and journal with them! Take 5 minutes to tell them what you’ve been reading and thinking.

 

School’s Out

School’s out for summer!

No more pencils…

No more books…

No more teacher’s dirty looks…

But for your child with ADHD, maybe the dirty looks from other kids continue and the social isolation he felt all school year only intensifies as he spends hour after hour in front of a screen during the long hot days of summer.  For many ADHD children and teenagers, negotiating the subtleties of establishing and maintaining meaningful relationships is as challenging as any subject at school.  At school, teaching occurs!  And most of what is taught it pretty concrete…even the most abstract academic concepts are more black-and-white than the process of establishing and maintaining meaningful relationships.

Early in their development, children play together, at first side-by-side and then, cooperatively.  This works for toddlers and preschoolers.  As children get older, their use of language as a social tool becomes more and more critical in relating to others.  By the time our children are in their early teens, initiating and sustaining conversations is at the core of all of their meaningful relationships. Making this transition is often tremendously challenging for the child with ADHD, and as result he/she is often left feeling lonely and on the periphery.

What makes the art of conversation so challenging for many ADHD children and teens (and yes, even adults), is that mastery requires that we all follow the many unwritten rules of conversation.  It is important to appreciate that other than when we say to our kids, “Hey look at me when you are talking” and “Don’t interrupt me when I am talking,” we do not  teach our children these rules.  They learn them indirectly through observation and accurate interpretation of the subtle feedback that comes their way when they break a rule in conversation…and we know that observing, reflecting, and checking themselves are inherent weaknesses for people with ADHD.  As a result, often, ADHD children and teens are unaware of the rules and struggle with the primary vehicle for relating to the people in their world.

 

Rules for Conversation

  • Maintain eye contact with your conversational partner
  • Take turns
  • Pick topics that are interesting to your conversational partner
  • Stay on topic
  • Give verbal and nonverbal signs that you are listening and interested
  • Carry your share of the conversation
  • Do not monologue
  • Stay connected to the content of what your partner just said
  • Request clarification when you don’t understand what your partner said
  • Change topics in a bridging sort of way or alert your conversational partner of a change
  • Use a more formal style of talking with conversational partners who are less familiar or in positions of authority

 

Summer is a great time for our ADHD kids to improve their conversational skills.  At The Being Well Center,  I work with kids of all ages, individually and then in groups to help them clearly know and master the application of all of the rules to become more confident and competent as conversationalists.  The progress they make is tangible and exciting for them.  If your ADHD child or teen struggles to initiate and sustain meaningful conversations and you are interested in promoting these skills, reach out to us…I would welcome the opportunity to help!  Or find a good Speech-Language Therapist to help.  Be a good consumer and be certain she has a passion for pragmatic language and a commitment to making it real…transferable to your child’s real world.  In my experience, talking about it and playing pragmatic language games yield little change in the real world.  Rather, focused, engaging, and practical pragmatic language activities will give your ADHD child or teen the tools for a lifetime of conversation.

What do you plan to do this summer to keep your ADHD child building social and conversational skills?

Jane Reck is a speech-language therapist who graduated from the University of Pittsburgh and Syracuse University summa cum laude.  Jane has more than 25 years of clinical experience as a case coordinator and speech-language therapist on The Being Well Center’s multidisciplinary health care team providing treatment to clients of all ages.  She has participated in the care of hundreds of patients with ADD/ADHD and has trained and supervised professionals from a variety of disciplines in how to use The Being Well System.  She has helped lead the establishment and management of transdisciplinary health care programs in the United States and Central America.